I'm fucked?

[Stolzy]

damn. if she's sexy as hell...i'd tell her. but only if you you know she has feelings for you as well and that you believe they'll outweigh those for her current boyfriend.

[primerdimer]

sounds like jim and pam on the office... season 1 of course... dont say anything... Just figure out a way to get over it and if she has feelings for you, let her pursue them... I was in that same situation about 3 years ago and got into a serious relationship and are no longer friends... Besides, having a friend that is female and trusts you is the best wingman... try it... its way better than a relationship lol
Good luck brother!

[Dane]

this shit isn't my strong suit, but i'd probably tell her myself. being me, i'd find some way to fuck things up anyways, so best of luck to you sir. lol.

[crxgames]

it just feels weird to look at my best friend, literally best.

and think "she's sexy as hell."

I know what you mean. Same situation here, but I think you made the right choice. Trustworthy friends are hard to come by. Not worth sacrificing that unless you know she may feel the same way.

[Trav!!!]

Feel for you brother...I had a very very similar situation except it was reversed.

This girl and I had been really close friends in Jr High and High School, we went to different HS though but we still hung out alot. We talked about dating at one point but agreed it would be weird. When I started dating the girl that I am dating now, she always seemed real weird when we hung out. I finally asked her what was up and she broke down crying how she could never find the right guy and how much of a pain it was looking, and how she wishes she could have seen that the person she really "loved" was right in front of her. Totally awkward for me, but at the same time I had feelings for her too, like your friend she was very very gorgeous.

After that conversations things went south she always seemed angry at me and then we stopped talking, she then changed her cell phone number and moved....I haven't talked to her in almost 4 years now.

[Ollie]

Dude you gotta just say something. Unless it's obvious that you cant compete at all with her current bf, than just come out and say it.

Just be confident about it and dont be all pussy and second guessing yourself. be confident that she wants to be with you too and that you are way better than her bf. That attitude will work without being too cocky. If youre selfconscious and unsure about it, than she will too.

If you think you dont have a chance than just keep it as freinds. me, personally, would rather get shot down and lose a 6 year friend(I dont care much for females friends tho lol let alone a girl best friend) than wonder forever if she was into me too.:duuno

just my 2 cents, but youre the only one that really knows all the circumstances

[Neb]

I recommend you just tell her how you feel, but stress that you are just doing it to let it out, and that even if you let it that, you dont want to let it get in between the friendship.

I think this is the best advice in here so far.

My best friend is actually a girl, we've been friends for 8 years now and even though I'd be with her in a heartbeat I'm ok with her being my best friend too (plus she's engaged and preggo now too )

[vonMonster]

• Very obvious we both have feelings for each other.
• She has a boyfriend of 2 years.
  
  

Conclusion: Am I being a pussy for not telling her all my shit?
Or am I being respectful by just keeping it as a friendship?

I've fucked my way into some bad situations before, but this one is too much for me to handle.

question here is "does she even likes her boyfriend?"
if you say that feelings are the same between your and her, then there's a test for you to do! it's hard, but works! try to keep some distance for 2 or 3 weeks, and see how far can both go without each other!
of course you will miss her, but remember will miss you too!
that could make change in her head!
cheers!

[eric@canibeat]

once your in the friend zone, its too late brah.

she has a bf of 2 years. just stay friends, its not worth the drama.

[loxxrider]

I've worked my way out of the friendship zone. I did put myself in it though.

I say tell her your feelings IF you almost positively know she feels the same way. If it works out, it could work out really well. If it doesn't...well then you probably wont be friends anymore.

For me, it has worked out better than I could have ever hoped for...so I say at least bring it up.

[eric@canibeat]

if she does have legit feelings for you then it could work out well on your end. but at the same time it can end both your friendships. i personally wouldnt do it since you have been friends for the past 6 and she has a bf of 2 years.

[Richard_Gud.]

this is exactly why I don't want to do it. all the reasons stated above.

and btw mr. von, if I don't text her for a day, she thinks something is wrong lol.


update: I'm fucked. she just texted me "i'm going to ask you a question. i want you to be honest."

haven't answered..

[loxxrider]

bahahahah that could be a good thing though.

IMO, if she wanted to be friends she would just ignore the fact that she thinks you like her that way.

If she likes you too, she might be inclined to ask. Sooooo maybe you are in the clear.

[B Rod]

bahahahah that could be a good thing though.

IMO, if she wanted to be friends she would just ignore the fact that she thinks you like her that way.

If she likes you too, she might be inclined to ask. Sooooo maybe you are in the clear.

This makes good sense.

[WhiteStripes]

this is exactly why I don't want to do it. all the reasons stated above.

and btw mr. von, if I don't text her for a day, she thinks something is wrong lol.


update: I'm fucked. she just texted me "i'm going to ask you a question. i want you to be honest."

haven't answered..

What was the question?

This happened to me. Told the chick I liked her, she said she knew and she didn't want to ruin the friendship. She ended up starting to just sleep with the most random dudes and proceed to tell me about it. I told her STFU with the info that I didn't want to know since it was pretty painful. One day she straight up tells me she had a threesome with her roomate and her BF and I was like "Fuck it, nice knowing you, hope you straighten you shit out and realize that the friendship was destined to fail either way"