hand-shaking etiquette

[M.Burroughs]

I'll shake your hand.

[gumballer_80]

I actually shook some female hands today... Met some new people in my classes.
I personally don't have any problem shaking a woman's hand...

Don't really understand why other men would have such a problem...

[Schieldrop]

I never shake hands, but that's just because everyone is beneath me...

Maybe no one dared shake your hand in fear of getting beat up by Mike for making a pass at you?

But seriously, not shaking your hand while shaking everyone elses is kinda weird if you ask me.
I find shaking hands with women just as ordinary as shaking a mans hand.
In fact I prefer it, since if I have to touch someone else I prefer it to be someone of the opposite sex.

[Russell_G]

I was always told a man is supposed to have a firm handshake and a good judge the type of person they are to note if they make eye contact and hold it for the length of the handshake.

I'm pretty outgoing so i always shake hands with people unless i dont like them or they seem to be a tool from the start. The "gangsta" hand slap stuff went out the window long ago.

[NegativeCamber]

i usually dont meet and greet my comrades in the kitchen.














i kid. or do i?

[E36Bimmer93]

If a woman is introducing herself to me, I wait until she offers her hand.

If I am introducing myself to woman, I offer my hand.

A woman needs to know how to offer/reciprocate a handshake, based on the type of meeting it is. If it is a business or professional meeting, a standard handshake is proper. But the man must let the woman set the firmness of the shake, and then respond to her 'grip'.


If it is a casual or romantic meeting, she should be offering her hand in the 'kiss my hand' style, at which point a man should know how to respond to that style, and can even go as far as placing his other hand gently over the top of hers in addition to the shake, in lieu of kissing her hand.


If being introduced, the person whose name is spoken first should initiate the handshake, as the person doing the introduction should be introducing the person they know least, to the person they know most. and as the newcomer, it is their responsibility to demonstrate manners as a way to leave a good first impression.

Of course, neither parents nor schools teach proper manners any more, so few know how to handle these situations. I find that it's just easier to fist-bump everyone in a social setting, and if a person has their hands full, I will offer an elbow-bump instead (too be funny/break the awkwardness of people wanting to shake but can't).


And I can't stand anything more than a simple handshake. Nothing makes you a d-bag more than knowing you expect me to do a 3-5 position shake (a'la gangsta), and expect me to know the order in which you will proceed. And overly strong handshakes are taboo as well, even between guys. If I feel you are about to break a bone, I will drop you with a left hook, regardless of the situation. An overly firm handshake is a sign of ignorance/aggression/dominance that I find extremely offensive, and in my case, will be met with a higher level of such. Don't be a dick.

As a non-nonsense tough guy, my approach is this:

If you are a woman, and you want to shake hands, grow some pubes and stick your damn hand out. It's isn't the 1950's any more, and this isn't Iran.

I was going to write something, but this is exactly what I would have said, except I pretty much never fist bump, and never ever do it to girls. And I wouldn't have put the nice pictures. Only other thing I can add is that if I'm introducing myself to a girl I'm not interested in then it's a basic hand shake but with alot less grip as a handshake with another man. If it's a girl I find attractive, and might want to take home then they get a special sensual hand shake from me.

[ray ban]

i just found it interesting. not that i would have remembered the names of all the guys that were being introduced. it would have just been nice not to be written off as M.Burroughs's bitch . . .well maybe thats not so bad

[BLKonBLK98]

they were scared of li'l wayne.

[TrUcKeR]

Well, you ARE a woman.

Ok, ok, I'm J/K about that.

It was rude to dismiss you. Unless you has moose knuckle.

But honestly, I think even I've done it a few times. If someone introduces me to a dude, but not the g/f or wife, I just assume there's a reason for it and go about my day. If she ends up speaking later, then I'll ask her name and shake the hand.

[ray ban]

its not about the type of greeting i was being given. Its the fact that everyone around me was getting a handshake and i wasn't. thats what was strange to me. i wasn't even introduced. i was skipped over like an invisible link. it kinda hurted my feelings

[Jay Z.]

I'm all about the pounding of the fist

[Tuck&Poke]

in miami girls and guys kiss on the cheek, and guys shake hands, i guess its a latin thing. I have to adjust when im not around here to more "american" etiquette which seems to be a handshake for girls and guys.

ive noticed that when the introduction is more formal, each person shakes hands or kisses, when the introduction is more broad, its typically waves, or nods

[Zack01GC]

I'll shake a girls hand if I'm introducing myself. That's about it, though.

[TrUcKeR]

In my teens, some previously unknown girls would indeed offer a hug, and I'd allow it. I'd cup their ass, squeeze a bit and say "Good game, girl."

I started getting hit too many times for it once I got older, so I stopped doing that.

[DiScoTeknix]

Maybe they feel intimidated by you?

I personally don't shake anyone's hand. A simple hello does the trick.