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If a woman is introducing herself to me, I wait until she offers her hand.
If I am introducing myself to woman, I offer my hand.
A woman needs to know how to offer/reciprocate a handshake, based on the type of meeting it is. If it is a business or professional meeting, a standard handshake is proper. But the man must let the woman set the firmness of the shake, and then respond to her 'grip'.
If it is a casual or romantic meeting, she should be offering her hand in the 'kiss my hand' style, at which point a man should know how to respond to that style, and can even go as far as placing his other hand gently over the top of hers in addition to the shake, in lieu of kissing her hand.
If being introduced, the person whose name is spoken first should initiate the handshake, as the person doing the introduction should be introducing the person they know least, to the person they know most. and as the newcomer, it is their responsibility to demonstrate manners as a way to leave a good first impression.
Of course, neither parents nor schools teach proper manners any more, so few know how to handle these situations. I find that it's just easier to fist-bump everyone in a social setting, and if a person has their hands full, I will offer an elbow-bump instead (too be funny/break the awkwardness of people wanting to shake but can't).
And I can't stand anything more than a simple handshake. Nothing makes you a d-bag more than knowing you expect me to do a 3-5 position shake (a'la gangsta), and expect me to know the order in which you will proceed. And overly strong handshakes are taboo as well, even between guys. If I feel you are about to break a bone, I will drop you with a left hook, regardless of the situation. An overly firm handshake is a sign of ignorance/aggression/dominance that I find extremely offensive, and in my case, will be met with a higher level of such. Don't be a dick.
As a non-nonsense tough guy, my approach is this:
If you are a woman, and you want to shake hands, grow some pubes and stick your damn hand out. It's isn't the 1950's any more, and this isn't Iran.
If I am introducing myself to woman, I offer my hand.
A woman needs to know how to offer/reciprocate a handshake, based on the type of meeting it is. If it is a business or professional meeting, a standard handshake is proper. But the man must let the woman set the firmness of the shake, and then respond to her 'grip'.
If it is a casual or romantic meeting, she should be offering her hand in the 'kiss my hand' style, at which point a man should know how to respond to that style, and can even go as far as placing his other hand gently over the top of hers in addition to the shake, in lieu of kissing her hand.
If being introduced, the person whose name is spoken first should initiate the handshake, as the person doing the introduction should be introducing the person they know least, to the person they know most. and as the newcomer, it is their responsibility to demonstrate manners as a way to leave a good first impression.
Of course, neither parents nor schools teach proper manners any more, so few know how to handle these situations. I find that it's just easier to fist-bump everyone in a social setting, and if a person has their hands full, I will offer an elbow-bump instead (too be funny/break the awkwardness of people wanting to shake but can't).
And I can't stand anything more than a simple handshake. Nothing makes you a d-bag more than knowing you expect me to do a 3-5 position shake (a'la gangsta), and expect me to know the order in which you will proceed. And overly strong handshakes are taboo as well, even between guys. If I feel you are about to break a bone, I will drop you with a left hook, regardless of the situation. An overly firm handshake is a sign of ignorance/aggression/dominance that I find extremely offensive, and in my case, will be met with a higher level of such. Don't be a dick.
As a non-nonsense tough guy, my approach is this:
If you are a woman, and you want to shake hands, grow some pubes and stick your damn hand out. It's isn't the 1950's any more, and this isn't Iran.
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