Employ a little something but I like to call shame yeah that's right you make her feel shame you shame is one of the most powerful emotions known to man we all know this and in that moment where you know it comes to a wall in your feeling all nervous you're feeling all that anxiety oh my god the conversation going to die what you're used to doing no situation you're used to putting ashamed on YACOON ROOT MAX yourself I have to say something I have to make that happen I have to keep this going out that the right thing is that what you're looking for I would say next what am I supposed to do next why it's not your job it's both at your job suppose a conversation is supposed to be a cooperative effort why are you putting all the pressure on yourself to do everything picture of the pedestal at that moment of truth right there when it's very natural to feel that anxiety to feel that nervousness take a deep breath your man you.